My Breastfeeding Journey: The Beauty, the Challenges, and the Lessons Learned

When I became a mom for the first time, I thought breastfeeding would be simple. I imagined it would be a natural, effortless process — just me and my baby, bonding in those quiet moments. But the reality was different. What I didn’t know then was that breastfeeding, while beautiful, can also be complicated, emotional, and sometimes painful.

In those first weeks, I had severe pain every time my daughter latched. I brushed it off, thinking discomfort was normal. But at her check-up appointment, the pediatrician told me she had lost weight. My heart sank. We talked about feedings, and I realized something wasn’t right.

That’s when I was referred to a lactation consultant — and she became a lifeline. She explained that the pain I was feeling wasn’t normal; it was due to a poor latch. With her guidance, we worked on positioning and placement, and some latching exercises for my daughter.

The consultant had noticed that my daughter was having some sucking issues which made latching harder. We were advised to supplement with syringe feedings while practicing exercises to draw out her tongue and improve her natural latch. It wasn’t easy. My breastmilk supply dropped, and I found myself pumping more often, trying to improve my milk supply with natural supplements, and riding an emotional rollercoaster.

There were tears, moments of doubt, and times I wondered if I could keep going. But with professional support and persistence, we made huge progress. My daughter began to gain weight, and breastfeeding became less painful and more rewarding. I also joined a free breastfeeding support group where I could go to share concerns, get information and receive peer support. A lactation specialist facilitated each group meeting. 

What I Learned

• Pain isn’t always normal: If breastfeeding hurts, it’s worth checking with a professional.

• Support matters: Lactation consultants, pediatricians, and support groups can make a world of difference.

• It’s emotional: Breastfeeding isn’t just physical — it can stir up feelings of guilt, frustration, and even grief. That’s okay.

• Every journey is unique: Whether you breastfeed exclusively, supplement, or use formula, you are still nourishing your baby with love.

I share my story not to make anyone feel bad if breastfeeding isn’t part of their journey, but to remind new moms that it can be challenging — and that help is out there. If you’re struggling, please know you don’t have to do it alone. Reach out to professionals, lean on your support system, and give yourself grace.

Breastfeeding taught me resilience, patience, and the importance of asking for help. Most of all, it reminded me that being a good mom isn’t about perfection. What truly matters is that your baby is cared for, nurtured, supported, and loved.

Local resources:

Prenatal Breastfeeding Services: Classes & Support - St. Al's

Breastfeeding Resources at St. Luke's